I’ve said this before, and I’ll say it until I’m blue in the face… INSECURITY ISN’T NATURAL. I’m not talking about insecurities that are outside of ourselves as humans. I’m talking about the inner voices that continue to perpetuate our own self destruction. I firmly believe that we are not born thinking negatively about ourselves. At some point in our life journey, someone (or something) shifted the way we thought about ourselves.
Maybe you’ve forgotten about it, those single/multiple events that shaped the course of your life. In order to heal ourselves of our insecurities, you need to be willing to take accountability for nurturing them. It’s easy to blame the “other,” but the other didn’t tell you to harbor those emotions. I’m not saying that insecurities are our fault, because they are not. We are the ones who have to carry the burden, not those who inflicted it upon us.
I constantly see the lack of initiative to change our mindsets. As much as it hurts us, we need to understand that for most life situations we will not get closure. Closure is overrated, at some point you have to decide if you’re going to continue letting this hold you back. I believe that we are naturally inclined to hold onto insecurities, because it’s all we’ve become accustomed to. If insecurity is all we know, then the need to keep them is rooted in the fear of unknown.
We are creatures of habit, most of us don’t like change. The first step to letting go of insecurities is to stop giving it power. It’s easier said than done I will admit. I continue to face demons that I didn’t even know I still had. Don’t run away they will eventually catch up with you, they always do. The efficient way to eradicate the baggage that is holding you back from reaching your fullest potential is to face it, and let it know that it will no longer hold power over you.
If you can nurture it, then you have the ability to destroy it.